The most surprising thing for me was that
others see me as much more comfortable or competent in my public speaking than
I felt I was. I suppose it is a good
thing that they both had much more faith in my public performances that I
do. That must mean that at some level I
am not coming off as scared to death or nervous which is often how I truly
feel.
The other thing that I found interesting is
the difference in how each individual evaluated me in the area of verbal aggressiveness. I had my husband and a colleague answer the
questions. It seems that at work I am
much milder in my communication style.
Not too aggressive but fair. It
takes a lot to get me to lose my temper and be aggressive so it doesn’t happen
too often. While my husband would echo
those words, he gets the unique opportunity to see those rare moments. He knows that while it does take quite a bit,
when it happens I can be very aggressive and advocate for what I believe
in. At times this bothers him because he
is a very strong and aggressive personality and it is difficult for him to see what
he believes is me being “run over” by others.
It was insightful to see how each different person in my life sees my
aggressive side. It showed me that I
need to be a bit more direct at work.
Staying too much in the middle has others unsure of where I stand on
issues and as a supervisor it becomes difficult for them to know what is
expected and to follow me.
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